Dr.Paalini Selvam | My Story
Being a scared , timid , aimless child life was never easy. My feelings of inferiority, loneliness and despair grew by time. A below average student, having a lisp, bullied by seniors made things worse. Adolescence made it clueless, battling for my purpose in life! Amidst all this chaos in my head, I was raised by my mother to be a compassionate being, fiery souled and to believe that there is always light at the end of the tunnel! That belief gave me the strength to march forward, pick up my multi talents, focus my energies. As a result finished my schooling emerged to become a topper in school. My deep passion for art lead me to believe it would be my path. But God had plans! I chose to study psychology which helped me to perceive myself better, learn and reach the stars! Becoming a university ranker, gold medals and distinctions paved the way to a career path of a lecturer and counsellor at a very young age! There was no stopping me!
But i still felt incomplete and waited to meet my soulmate! Finding my love and choosing it above all wasn’t easy. I trusted my decision, my choice and my higher powers presence and moved forward. My actions hurt many including my parents, I fell down in the eyes of many, facing ridicule and embarrassment life again brought me rolling down. But it was that fiery soul, never say die attitude, trust on my love and faith that my higher power will carry me through this that made me pick up my pieces. Forever grateful for a few good souls who stood by me!
Blessed to have a partner who made my dreams his made me aim for the stars. After M.Sc I moved on to do M.Phil, MBA(Hr) and Ph.D in Psychology. Growing to become an Associate Professor, Counseling Psychologist, Director of a Rehabilitation, Industrial Entrepreneur, life gave me opportunities and an experience of two decades. A mother of two beautiful children, I decided to always keep thriving to learn until my last breath. I trained myself under several coaches and certified myself to become a Life coach.
The sole reason to share my story is just to say, we all have a story, we carry baggage , battled with lifes demands, unable to cope, difficult to set goals, and struggling to make our dreams come true. But we are conditioned to hide and never to share! It takes time to admit and accept we have a choice…. To reach out and take help. Its a huge shout out to all …. To reach out , share and learn to cope and heal with life! !
